Parents need to be cautious and avoid unfavorable behavior atleast in front of their kids. A ‘favorable home environment’ precisely means sharing quality time with your kids, making the home environment happy and calm. You can involve your kids into a lot of creative activities.

Do not leave your child alone for too long. There is a lot of research that shows people who are left alone in their childhood suffer serious personality disorders. Try and spend atleast two to three hours of quality time with your children. For working mothers, it is important that you keep your child under someone’s supervision and not leave them alone.

Grandparents also help a great deal in inculcating good values in your children. Typically, grandmothers are best at doing that. Teach your kid to respect each and every family member including your servant or maid as well.. Suitable and favorable home environment can go a long way to teach your kids good manners and behavior.

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Parents need to lead by example. What is their anger level? How often they get angry? How do they react? Because whatever parents react is naturally passed on to kids. So parents must be very careful while dealing with their own anger pattern. If parents are going to teach children about anger issue they should start with their own behavior. Children are not really aware of ways to control anger. Its parents’ job to teach kids about various ways to curb anger. It could be a walk in the park or lying down or breathing practices or keeping mum etc. parents must encourage child about these ways.

Children often resort to violent activities when they are angry. Most of the kids scream, shout, hit or throw things. Teach them other resorts. Give them the words to express themselves. One of the best ways to curb anger is breathing exercises and 1-10 counting strategy. Teach kids these easy steps so that they get a hold of their anger level.

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The first thing parents need to do is to accept and realize the fact that teen smoking has become a widely prevalent phenomenon. Parents must acknowledge that the problem can occur in their own households as well. It would be a huge misconception to think that their teens won’t fall prey to this bad habit. The truth is your kid is as much vulnerable to this problem as any other teen. Once the realization sets in, appropriate steps need to be taken. Most of teens take to smoking because of peer pressure. It is also considered as a way to look cool and smoking is perceived as ‘in thing’. In such cases, its parents’ job to instill self-confidence and esteem in their teens.  Parents also need to develop better relationships with the teens and guide them in maintaining body shape and dealing with stress.  

Parents need to put examples by practicing the same behavior that they preach. If parents are smokers then kids are more prone to fall prey to smoking habit. So parents must lead by example. Parents must look out for signs that teens are gravitating towards smoking. That’s the best way to prevent smoking. It would be very handful if parents express their feelings about smoking to the teens. Talk about it in a proper way without any offensive or coercive way.

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Parents need to be very cautious and democratic while dealing with teens. Use of force and harsh words should be avoided. Parents won’t be able to agree with everything teens say or do but how to handle such situation is going to be the key. Rather than focusing upon his pierced ears or long hair, better focus upon more important factors like smoking, drinking, sex and drugs. That way you will be doing your job and at the same time allowing teen to indulge in his small fantasies.

Parents should not be autocratic with teens because that will only increase the rift. Finding the middle ground is the key issue. Set your limits clearly but it must have participation of the child as well. Teens constantly face peer pressure. In such situations, they should have the confidence and trust of coming to you and talking about those stuffs. You must understand his point of view. Give him further direction by identifying another good kids or indicating him values of having a role model. Lastly, always keep the communication channel open.

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Ever planted a tree? Right from sowing the seed, giving it water, nurturing it, seeing the first leaf, the flower, the fruit…the joy is incredible. As parents this is what you will experience when you see your child grow.

Here is a wonderful extract from The Prophet by Khalil Gibran:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward not tarries with yesterday…

This passage tells a lot about parenting and since this is an art, I won’t say that there are strict Dos and Don’ts. Every parent will paint a different picture. However, there are guidelines which will help every parent to see and bring out the best in their kids.  

You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.  ~William D. Tammeus.

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Now, it might be that you as a mother would be keeping busy all day long with all the house work. Sometimes, you might wish to escape the chaos of cooking meals for your family as the work might be burdensome for you. Children would be asking you to cook some tasty delicious food every other day and you would like to have some time off for yourself. However, you would not be able to take some time off for your self as you would be having children to look after. Even you would want to have a healthy life for yourself while parenting your children to have a healthy life for themselves. So, how do you find time for your self and even do all the chores without much trouble?

Here is a solution:

Keep a list of Indian recipes that you think would be quick enough to cook effortlessly. Certain recipes can be very quick enough to cook.

You can even choose to cook recipes that do not require too much time to look after it while it’s on the burner or in the oven/fridge.

If you have older children, then you can show them how to cook certain recipes without taking your help.

Have a variety of recipes in your lists as cooking the same food over and over again could attract irritation from your children.

You can even keep half-baked food for dinner while cooking lunch in the morning.

Make a note of whats healthy for your children and what’s not. Also make a note of what your children like and what they don’t.

One thing has to be noted. If you want your children to stay healthy, you must only cook food that nourishes your child completely. Cooking fast food all the time cannot be a good idea all the time as fast food cannot enable your child to stay healthy all the time. Its better to have a variety of foods.

Finally, the moral is cook healthy food with healthy emotions as well as stay healthy all the time by giving some time to your own health as well. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

Life is Easy. Take it Easy.

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What parents must do is to be supportive in every way possible and be there while they need you. Co-operation from parents can help build a child’s life and help the child in being successful in their chosen hobby i.e. career.

Here is a list of hobbies that your child can pursue and create a life of their own choice. Be a pillar strength to your child today and let your child live a life completely and passionately. Be a good parent today!

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It causes trauma, pain and disturbance to all concerned. It is the parents who normally wake up each night to check on the child, maybe even to disturb sleep to check on whether he/she wants to go to urinate. It is the parents and the maid who have to change and wash the sheets and air the room if the child urinates. But what about the child’s mental state?

Can you imagine the pain and shame the child has to go through? A feeling of inadequacy surges, especially when the child is aware of the trouble that is caused to the other members of the family.
Sometimes, when the doctors are not able to pinpoint a physical, neurological or genetic cause for this problem, the psychological causes must be looked into, as it is quite possible that the child could be mentally deficient. In such cases, as a rule, most of the developmental milestones are generally delayed and toilet training could start much later than usual.
The child guidance clinic is a good place to start investigations as the enuresis could be a case of serious maladjustment. Some children do not want to accept basic responsibilities like tying their own shoelaces or going to the toilet. They want to prolong their infancy and total dependency much longer than is normal. This could even be the result of sibling rivalry or jealousy. Because when a younger child is born, most of the attention gets diverted and the older one does everything possible to get it back, on a conscious or even subconscious level.
Bed-wetting is common in both timid and weak as well as in strong aggressive children. The child has a basically weak emotional foundation and could come from a broken home or any kind of disruptive, unstable atmosphere. Either one of the parents could be physically or psychologically missing and the child could be feeling insecure for some reason. In highly aggravated cases, sometimes the child cannot even control the urge during the day and could embarrass himself in public leading to a further complex. Then it would be difficult to ever send him anywhere, even to school.
In some cases placebo drugs are given to the child to make him feel that he is being physically treated for the problem. But much, much more important is his mental welfare and sense of belonging as most of the time; enuresis has a deep psychological foundation. Therefore it is important that both the parents accompany the child for counseling.

Diapers can reduce the embarrassment and mess of wetting incidents. Diaper sizes for enuresis cover individuals from 38 lb (17 kg) through adult sizes. Some research, however, indicates that extended use of diapers can interfere with learning to stay dry.
In most cases, a simple change of attitude on the part of the parents is all that is required to solve the problem. If your child feels safe and secure in a home filled with love, most personality disorders get sorted out on their own, if at all they were to arise.

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Common cold hits a child’s ability to sleep, eat and function on normal levels directly. Irritation levels go up in houses where children suffer from cold and cough, causing a lot of disharmony and friction. It is also not very wise to give strong medication to children every time they are down with a cold and cough. It is therefore advisable for you to give age old home remedies from the kitchen shelf, to children suffering from cold. I have tested few of these on my children over a period of time and found them to be very effective and am sharing some of them with you below:-

1)Massage warm coconut oil on your child’s chest and upper back just before sleeping.

2)Ensure that your childs sleeping room is warm and cozy, and there is no direct draft of a fan or air conditioner on the his person.

3)Give your child ginger tea every morning.

4)Boil a bunch of basil (tulsi) leaves and make your child drink its water when warm, every morning.

5)Make a string of five to six de-skinned garlic cloves, and put it like a necklace around your sleeping child.

6)Hot lemon tea with honey is also excellent to treat cold.

7)Give orange or other juices which are rich in vitamin C and prevents the body from getting dehydrated.

You should also let your child get lot of rest when he is down with cold and cough, even if he is not running a temperature. Keep him away from chilled drinks, milk and banana when he is suffering from cold. Also do not give water for half an hour after having any fruit. Minimize his intake of tomatoes, peanuts and black eyed beans at such times. Keep him firmly away from chocolates, fatty sweets and fried eats.

Let your child inhale steam and take steam baths if possible, to fight cold and cough. Gargling with warm salt water is also very soothing for the throat. Fresh air, sound sleep, deep breathing and mild sunbathing are also excellent for the treatment of this virus.

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However, there are certain children who refuse to have nutritious foods such as milk, cereal, fruits, toasts, etc during breakfast time. Many even refuse to have the entire breakfasts for a variety of reason’s. Some children don’t like to have food as early in the morning and some don’t like the choices available at the breakfast table in the morning.

Children really don’t realize why a breakfast is necessary and you might have to coax them a lot to have breakfasts everyday. If that is the case with your child, here are a few pointers:

• Try to know what your child really likes to have, what are their dislikes. Let them have choices and favorite foods in their breakfasts.

 

• Most children love chocolate with milk. If your children does not drink milk, you could even offer to add chocolate or chocolate powders to it. there are variety of them available. You could also add fruit syrups or fruit shakes instead of choco-shakes in the morning.

 

• Add some fruit to the breakfast every morning. Keep changing the fruits available for breakfasts every morning.

 

• Let them know why they must do breakfasts. Explain that their bones require calcium, their mind requires strength and they require to become strong.

 

• If your child resists eating breakfasts, tell them they would not be getting certain privileges that they get during the day if they don’t duly eat their breakfasts on time.

 

• Be logical. Children are smart to point out your mistakes quickly and efficiently. Do not get hyper or anxious just because your child does not listen to you.Be cool and calm while you’re asking them to have their breakfasts.

 

• Keep affirming to them “You will get stronger my boy if you eat breakfasts. Only stronger and smart children have breakfasts.”

 

• Create a lists of items that you can have in breakfasts and keep adding as many items in that lists as you can.

 

Good Parenting is all about getting your children to stay fit, healthy, wealthy and sane. Convince your children about eating breakfasts regularly so as to make them strong and healthy. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

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