How many kids love to study? Well, answer is not so inspiring enough. But kids are like that only. They are not willing to study. Instead they would prefer to watch TV, play games or just wandering around. They will often remind you of your own childhood. How we as children, used to bunk classes taking the risk of spanking from teacher and parents and yet we did not feel like studying. But then, time teaches one and everyone learns the value of study sooner or later. As a parent, you can always strive to make your kid study through different methods. But the best method is to motivate your kid so that he can be confident and achieve success in his life.

While you try to motivate your child, never ever try to compare your child to anyone. The thing is every child is completely different from one another and he is special in his own way. Though your intentions may be right yet the method of comparison is never fruitful. Make sure to use encouraging language for your child. Patience is the key while you try to motivate your child to study. The basic fact that after all you are trying to motivate a child will always remain the same so it makes sense to be patient and persistent. Don’t give up and don’t give in. don’t insist but rather assist the child. One of the interesting ways to motivate your child is to tell them inspiring stories. It will include the essence of why they should study and how it is going to benefit them in future.

Try to use affirmative sentences so that kid understands the importance of studies. Anger is a complete no-no. Try to schedule a study routine. Try to have a free flowing talk with your child about study and related aspects. Appreciate him whenever he performs well.

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The charity begins at home. Start with giving your own example. For the uninitiated, encourage your child to read the newspaper on a daily basis. Soon, it will become his habit. This habit can’t be developed overnight. One good idea is to discuss headlines with your child so that he develops a keen interest in what is going around the world. Try not to dwell on just news. Your discussion could involve subjects like movies, music or sports.

The advantage of discussion is your child will be more interested in current affairs as you as parent will be leading by example. Child often follows his parents so if you yourself is into news and current affairs, naturally child will find it easier, comfortable and motivating enough to generate interest. It is a common sight now a day to find kids having poor general knowledge. They totally seem clueless of what is going around the world. This is definitely not an encouraging sign and at some point of his life child will find himself alienated. Command over general knowledge will make your child more confident and a better conversationalist.

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Apart from love and cars parenting also includes responsiveness, understanding child’s needs, mounting desires, clarifying expectations, praising a child for his goodness, demanding discipline, and fostering values and virtues.

Understanding a child is the key element of good parenting. Parents should understand the needs, demands, and desires of their children and should adapt themselves to the changing generation. By bridging the generation gap they can better understand their children. They should never force their own ambitions on the tiny tots. Children are clay that can be molded in any form and it depends on parents how they mold them.

If parents shower love and attention on their children they grow up to be better citizens of the society. But this does not mean that parents should fulfill all the forceful desires children have. Parents have all right to decide what’s right and what’s wrong for their own children but that it should be clearly explained to them. If parents don’t fulfill their desires and if they don’t understand why then it puts a negative impact on the relationship. Don’t scold them or bash them for all small mistakes or else it will result in lot of fear and depression in children.

Learning and understanding a child helps promote growth and development of a child. It also helps a child to prosper physically, psychologically, socially and spiritually.

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Many children are victim of verbal abuse hurled at them in various parts of the world. The pain incurred from poisonous words can be very damaging to a child’s psychology. Parents are often responsible for venting out their frustrations at their kids. Perhaps, you are not realizing it but kids are well, kids. They do not understand what sort of stress you are facing in your professional arena or other social interactions. It’s quite easy to let out your irritation at your kids but imagine what sort of psychological damage you are inflicting on your kids. Children start losing confidence and develop inferiority complex.

Losing self-esteem is another downside of this verbal onslaught. Some children simply develop shyness and feel inhibited for the rest of their lives. Negative self image is another major side-effect of your verbal assault. Some of the common feelings experienced by child are, ‘I am always wrong’, ‘nobody loves me’, ‘I am fit for nothing’ etc. would you really prefer your child to be withdrawn and depressed for no fault of his? It is not hard to find such symptoms in the child. The moment you see such signs, it is an alarming sign then. Often a moment of self-introspection will reveal the fact that your verbal assault is the reason behind your child’s miseries.

It is a signal to change your attitude towards your kid and start showing some affection and kind words than verbal aggression. Some children are found to be indulged in self destructive activities and that’s a very serious issue. Delayed development of child occurs when faced with verbal aggression. These children tend to fall in every aspect in their lives. It is a long term affect so parents must be very careful what they are doing with their tongue. Parents need to be more sensitive and use better skills to handle their frustration and understand child.

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Using sign language must be a habit. Parents should use the signs on a regular basis. The more regular parents are, better the chances of babies learning it. Eye contact is another important aspect. That will ensure the complete attention of your child. Slowly but surely, baby will start associating relationship between sign and things. Parents must also make sure to use few words only during initial stages. Take it slow and that way baby will be able to grasp the thing in a better way. Use physical objects to convey your signs.

Don’t make it a cumbersome routine. Parents should try to make this thing fun. For that, they can use different emotions like anger, sadness or happiness. Use facial expressions and appropriate body language. Parents should also try to add new signs with frequent interval. It could be 2- weeks. Lastly, parents can also use pictures to convey message.

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While parents cannot expect their child to be quiet and disciplined all the time, otherwise they will lose the essence of their childhood, it is also important that you tactfully tell your child about certain actions that can get embarrassing or intolerable.

Children who run about and are loud in their actions are not ‘bad’. It is just that they want to get noticed and gain attention or simply, they are just by themselves enjoying. So as parents do you tolerate their behavior or do you enforce strict discipline in them? Where should you draw the line?  As parents all you need to do is diverse or transgress this extra energy that your child has into something productive, something constructive. You can enroll your child for karate classes, dance classes or even athletics where your child gets a chance to showcase his great amount of energy which becomes an advantage for him. Simultaneously, you can tell your child about different social behaviors that are expected in social settings and how his behavior can affect his personality. Slowly and steadily your child will learn. It is just a matter of patience and training.

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Parents who do not spend time quality time with their children but try to cover up with the repetitively and mechanically telling their kids how much they love them; never understand the true requirements of their children. On the other hand, children are never totally deceived by such hollow words. They try to cling to their parents and show them as they believe what they are being told but unconsciously they  know that their parents ‘s words do not match up with their deeds. While parents, who spend quality time with their kids, may be not in the pique moments but kids of such parents proclaim that they are neglected but unconsciously they know it is temporary and they are valued by their parents.

The feeling of being valuable is very important for the mental and spiritual health of a person and this can be achieved in the childhood; later on it becomes very difficult.   It is corner stone of the self- discipline because person who thinks himself valuable will be self-disciplined by taking care of himself in all the ways required to live a healthy life.  And such a feeling of being valuable is a direct product of parental love.

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Children can learn a lot from reading about the ‘Gandhian way of life’. Mahatma Gandhi was very firm on his thoughts, his ideologies, his actions and his beliefs. Some of the values he believed in were ahimsa (non violence) and honesty.

Rather than spending each night deciding what stories to tell your child, pick up a book which describes Gandhiji’s life and narrate these incidents to your children. It will not only imbibe good values in children but will also help them to know a little of history. Gandhiji has given the example of a tree which has a single trunk and many branches. Similarly, India is a trunk with so many religions existing as branches of the same tree. Gandhian philosophy is adored to the extent that movies like Munnabhai showcase how Gandhian philosophy can be practiced in today’s life.

Gandhiji believed in living simple. Simplicity was a virtue for him. Unlike today’s generation of kids who spend thriftly and waste most of the time in watching TV and talking on the mobile, Gandhiji valued time and would not let a single minute go waste. Stories like these can only help your child to get inspired and turn a better individual as he/she grows.

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Do you often find your teenage child acting irrationally or confused?

If yes, then is it that you find your teenage child very depressed often than not?

Teenagers are at a stage of their lives when they get easily influenced but do not know what is right/wrong and good/bad for themselves. In short they do not understand how to act responsibly but are in the stages of discovery of how to be a responsible individual all by themselves. Their enthusiasms can be found to be very high during their teen lives and thus you might find their focus wandering from one thing to another. That leads them to a stage where they will be found confused often than not. This further leads them to depression.

Other than that, often pressures from friends, teachers and especially parents can get them depressed. Many a times, other children develop bad habits in school and these habits can also infest your child’s behavior with the same environment of other children and lead to development of bad habits in their behavior.

These bad habits along with depression can often lead to teenagers taking up things like drugs/smoking/alcohol during teenage/post-teenage life. What requires to be done by the parent is:

• A parent must counsel their children as and when they find their child feeling depressed/low/confused or even angry. “Counseling can work wonders”.

 

• A parent must be aware about what the child is experiencing in school, at home and the world outside.

 

• A parent must take note of who are the child’s friends and what kind of friends does your child keep a relationship with.

 

Indeed, these steps are not to restrict your child from doing anything but to keep an eye open at your child’s ongoings and take precaution at the same time from any possible adversity. A parents ignorance about the child and their experience of life can have disastrous results. Be supportive to your child and be a good parent today!

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However, there are certain children who refuse to have nutritious foods such as milk, cereal, fruits, toasts, etc during breakfast time. Many even refuse to have the entire breakfasts for a variety of reason’s. Some children don’t like to have food as early in the morning and some don’t like the choices available at the breakfast table in the morning.

Children really don’t realize why a breakfast is necessary and you might have to coax them a lot to have breakfasts everyday. If that is the case with your child, here are a few pointers:

• Try to know what your child really likes to have, what are their dislikes. Let them have choices and favorite foods in their breakfasts.

 

• Most children love chocolate with milk. If your children does not drink milk, you could even offer to add chocolate or chocolate powders to it. there are variety of them available. You could also add fruit syrups or fruit shakes instead of choco-shakes in the morning.

 

• Add some fruit to the breakfast every morning. Keep changing the fruits available for breakfasts every morning.

 

• Let them know why they must do breakfasts. Explain that their bones require calcium, their mind requires strength and they require to become strong.

 

• If your child resists eating breakfasts, tell them they would not be getting certain privileges that they get during the day if they don’t duly eat their breakfasts on time.

 

• Be logical. Children are smart to point out your mistakes quickly and efficiently. Do not get hyper or anxious just because your child does not listen to you.Be cool and calm while you’re asking them to have their breakfasts.

 

• Keep affirming to them “You will get stronger my boy if you eat breakfasts. Only stronger and smart children have breakfasts.”

 

• Create a lists of items that you can have in breakfasts and keep adding as many items in that lists as you can.

 

Good Parenting is all about getting your children to stay fit, healthy, wealthy and sane. Convince your children about eating breakfasts regularly so as to make them strong and healthy. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

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