Discipline plays such a crucial role in everyone’s life. So how could children remain untouched by this great virtue? If parents can manage to ingrain element of discipline in child right from the very beginning, things could be very rosy for child as he grows older. It is job of the parents to use every method in the book to instill value of discipline in child. Discipline also plays a role in getting the child behave in a way that is acceptable to others. Freedom does not mean misusing it and crossing the limits. Many a times, parents resort to punishment as a tool to direct child towards the right path. And if used properly, punishment is not really a bad thing. Parents must check whether the child is behaving accordingly. Corrective methods must be employed to discipline child if that is he call of the hour.

Parents need to ensure that they are being consistent while behaving with child. There should not any extreme measure. By extreme, we refer to extreme protectiveness or punishment. Balance must be maintained. Parents should not overindulge in strictness and punishment because that an lead to different kinds of complications. All the senior members of the family must be in sync with each other and contradictory opinions must be avoided because that can confuse child as what is exactly expected of him.

Don’t just punish child all of a sudden. Give him a warning or reminder before actually taking the stern step. Threats are rendered meaningless if follow up actions is not taken. Occasional tantrums or bedwetting should be punished. Parents should also avoid punishing kids for accidental mishaps. Just tell him to be more careful next time. Use non verbal communication for minor misdeeds. Finally, don’t take severe actions.

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 It is said that humid climatic conditions makes the skin oily and thus this skin invites dirt and dust. To keep the skin clean and soft, it is essential that moms make their children go for an evening bath or an evening shower. Out of laziness, your child may refuse to take a bath or a shower and rather than forcing him and locking him up inside a bathroom try and explain to him what would happen if he or she wouldn’t take a bath. Sometimes, fear of dirty skin or germs sticking on the body will make your child rush to the bathroom and have his/her shower.

It is also necessary to inculcate this discipline at an early age so that in your child’s growing years, he is given all the right training that will stay with him forever.  A luke warm water shower also helps to increase blood circulation and scrubbing the body with a scrubber or a brush helps to remove all the dead skin. In winters or in dry climatic conditions, body lotion should be used. There are mild body lotions that are available for children.

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The basic table manners that should be taught, include washing hands properly before starting your meal which helps your remain hygienic and placing a napkin on your lap. Moreover, sit up straight and don’t stoop while eating, never keep your mouth open while chewing and never talk while eating, never disrespect or talk bad about the food and always say thank you when served, never pick anything from your tooth while on the table, never reach across the table and instead politely ask someone to pass the dish to you and last but not the least never burp while or after a meal.

Such ethics can’t be forced upon children and they take time to adopt these mannerisms. Don’t keep pestering your kid and instead appreciate them when they display good manners. Children tend to imitate their parents. You can use this to your benefit and set an example for your child by performing these etiquettes responsibly. Also, children hate being formal all the time, so let them be themselves and amuse themselves at times, when at home. Reward them, maybe with something they really like, when they exhibit fine table manners.

It takes time for children to absorb and execute table manners and we as parents need to be patient, calm and serene with them. A little credit and appreciation would boost their self-esteem and make them more responsible. Lastly, don’t over-focus on table protocols and snatch away the delight of the meal.

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Too much of exertion via strong commands somehow does not work on children. School and teachers are a wonderful medium to instruct children into behaving well. All kids love to wait in the assembly and observe silence during their morning prayers at school. Since they accept it willingly they do not seem to flout the discipline. Occasionally all children err but we can correct the same gently.

Discipline is also necessary to initiate table manners. Although it is impossible to register indiscipline in dining halls or hotels on toddlers, making them exposed to the set will eventually make them observe the decorum. Sudden exposure to a prim n proper behavior will confuse them and they resort to misbehaving.

The next time you make a trip to the mall or the garden, tell the child to pack his own kit bag. This can include his water bottle, napkin and play things. I do the same with my daughter and it’s amazing that she picked it up so well that often I get a reminder to pack certain things. Awareness of virtues and also gently persuading them to abstain from bad behavior is also a sign of good parenting.

Time out sessions is another way to make the child realize that discipline is necessary. Spanking or grounding will only make them rigid and the outcome can become a personality disorder. Let the child know that the time out for e.g. to stay still, declining television or staying in a room silently is a temporary but strict situation. Assure them that you love them and insist on discipline.

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Even after repeating the same instructions over and over again, they might fail to obey what you have said. The reason behind this is their short memory. Be patient with your toddler and you will be able to handle the situation effortlessly after a period of time. Your yelling, slaps or shouts can go against you and your child will feel harmed.

Its better to practically show them what has to be done rather than just instruct them with a rule. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

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There will be situations wherein:

• Your child behaves irrationally.
• Your child does not respond properly.
• Your child does not perform adequate responsibilities responsibly.
• Your child keeps disturbing you all the time.
• Your child is demanding your attention.
• Your child did something that they shouldn’t.

“Whatever the situation, you must NOT spank your child.”

As they grow you wish to make them learn to behave responsibly. Thus, you must teach them that spanking other people isn’t good at all. There can be an exceptional situation such as when someone spanks them, they can return the favor to defend themselves. But that too should be avoided if possible. There can be another exception too. when they behave worse and highly abusive in any manner, you can spank them.

Remember, when you spill anger on other people in front of your child or spill anger over your child, your child models your thought process and performs accordingly. A child thinks that whatever their parents do is okay even if the parent is encouraging violent behavior.

Discipline cannot be encouraged through means of physical punishment. It has to be encouraged through peaceful means.

Parents must not teach their children that “Anger is good” and “Violence is okay” in any form. Don’t show off your anger in front of your children. Learning so, they tend to get worse than ever. Avoid spanking your child at all costs so as to not encourage bad behavior from your children. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

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Parents get excessively frustrated with their behavior and it seems really intolerable for parents to tolerate their behavior. Now, what should a parent do in such cases?

Firstly, dont scream back at the child if you think that the child will get more notorious by your screaming.

Secondly, if they are demanding something, do think what will be effect if you give in to their demands. Sometimes you can give them some things but not always.

Thirdly, When they get too demanding and intolerable, don’t hit them. This will encourage them to rebel against you as a parent which will create further trouble.

The best thing as a parent you can do is to encourage them to experience silence at a deeper level. Try to take them away from home near a very natural place which is serene and silent. Make efforts to make them experience and hear the sounds that are within their minds and which disturb them quite often than not. Even a holy temple would be a great idea as temples generally make people experience a more silent life. Silence can do wonders to a child’s bad habit of incessant screaming. Make sure the silence touches their heart, mind and soul.

Think more as a friend than as a parent. Compliment them whenever possible. Try to correct their mistakes. Remember, children are very sensitive to what their parents say and express to them. This can have a positive as well as a negative effect on children depending upon how their sensitivity can be capitalized to get positive results.

Some children shout because they have loads of energy that is not used but keeps building as excess energy. Some children shout because they cannot get what they want. Some children cannot cope with being quiet, they just want to express and so they shout. Some children express their rebel by shouting.

What a parent can do best is to eat, sleep, play and talk with them as much as possible and become a friend more often than just a parent. Its nice to be a kid with a kid because then the kid finds a friend rather someone who is going to boss over them and scold them. Let them feel a special connection towards you as a parent. Then try to instill discipline in them, it will definitely work.

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And some of those likings/dislikings/habits could have an adverse effect on their physical, mental and spiritual health as well as a bad effect to their future well-being. As a parent, you are understanding that very well and that might be a concern for you.

I would say “Relax!”

A good parent is one who knows how to lead themselves and their children to the right path.

There are some four steps that can help you change their likings/dislikings/habits :

1. Sit with your children as much as possible or rather start playing with your children as often as you can. Make them feel you are not just a parent but you wish them well always. They will slowly start trusting you more as a friend which will further lead you to being accepted as a trustworthy parent by your children.

 

2. Once you have built a rapport or a strong connection, you must clarify their doubts and try to realistically answer as many questions as possible. Once they start asking you questions and there might be a few answers from your end that can help you build your respectful image in front of your child.

 

3. They start looking forward to you as an inspiration. Now, it is your duty to create an urge within them to know more in life. Moreover, they have just started listening to you. Thats a very good sign. That proves you can now easily change their likings/dislikings/habits to a great extent though the inner engineering of sensual system might take a little more time than normal to accept the inititiative of making changes in their lives.

 

4. Let them take their time. You must not force them to change neither criticize them to change. Let them build a self-communicative environment within themselves that helps them to make best friends with themselves. That will help them get more comfortable while handling their responsibilities at hand. Once they get more comfortable handling themselves, they will automatically want to change their habits/likings/dislikings naturally and as soon as possible.

 

Remember, a demanding parent or a parent with a lot of expectations from their children can never change their children in any way positively neither can be successful in their relationships with their children. A parents hyper-active behavior can in fact infest their  child’s behavior with negative thinking, immorality, rebel and hatred. Ultimately, Choice Is Your’s.

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Teenagers are easily susceptible to influence; good and bad both. Teenagers just start looking forward to freedom during this period. They look forward to dreams that seem unrealistic and their behavior might seem very obnoxious to adults; especially parents.

It is because there is already a communication gap due to the difference in the maturity levels of the child and the parent. Teenagers require their personal space; their personal time and a personal right to identify themselves as one who is unique and especially different than his/her parent.

Thoughts of a teenager might sound childish though the truth is that they do not mature instinctively to a level which is the same as of an adult. They are still children until they start developing the tendencies to take responsibility for their actions all by themselves.

When you talk to them, they might be very good at something or rather, very bad at something. They require support especially during tough times to deliver results.

A parent must understand a teenagers concern rather than ‘putting off’ their stubborn behavior just because they act in a way an adult finds difficult to digest. Teaching teenagers financial and social independence can help them stabilize and grow steadily rather than remaining confused.

Being a friend rather a parent can be a way to build a communication. If a parent acts as if they are teenagers with their teenage child will sound more rewarding to their child as they would be more comfortable talking a person of their own age than someone who has become a complete adult. Listening to what they have to say is crucial for every parent as they have no maturity to make their own decisions.

Many-a-times, teenagers show attempts at becoming an adult by themselves and it is essential for a parent to appreciate their efforts. They start to take their responsibilities when they are starting to mould themselves into successful individuals. They just require someone who can heartfully listen to what they have to say, guide them when they require guidance and let them speak what is on their way.

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When a child is young enough, their mind, body and spirit can be mentored to absorb any lifestyle quickly over a period of time. However, a child must be taught to maintain their mind, body and spirit. There are many areas that are important to a child’s health, for example: exercise, nutrition, sleep and daily habits.

Lets understand what a schedule of healthy exercise can do to a child:

Exercise can help refresh the child’s body and its mechanism.
Exercise can help build a child’s mental, physical and spiritual strength which will help him sustain his life.
Exercise helps to develop flexibility of the body.
Exercise help strengthen the overall body.
Exercise helps to develop fitness.
Exercise helps to develop confidence.
Exercise helps to strengthen bones, internal organs and mental capacity.

Lets understand what good sleep can do to a child:

Good sleep can help a child to rejuvenate and regain strength.
Good sleep can enable a child to resolve tough situations quickly.
Good sleeps helps relax the muscles of a child.
Good sleep makes a child healthier and stronger in every way whether mental, physical, emotional or even spiritual.
Good sleep increases the enthusiasm of the child.

Lets understand what good nutrition can do to a child:

Good Nutrition encourages good and sound sleep.
Good Nutrition purifies the blood and the internal mechanism of the body.
Good Nutrition energizes the mind and releases toxins from the body.
Good Nutrition increases cheerfulness and peace of mind.
Good Nutrition reduces cholesterol, fats and builds muscle.
Good Nutrition can be easily digested.

A child’s daily habits can be critical to his/her life’s term, mental capacities and growth. Teaching good time management skills to a child is a must. This way, a child can form a healthy lifestyle that will definitely boost his/her confidence in every possible way. Teaching your child to live a healthy lifestyle is not only a smart choice but also ensures your child will happily all his/her life.

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