Signs of Bad Parenting!
- Monday, February 4, 2008, 9:45
- bad parenting, good parenting
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There are various signs that indicate that you are being a bad parent. Your actions speak more of you in front of your child rather than just your words. You must take proper action to make sure your child is happy about you and enjoys being in your company. However, there are times that wont be easy but still, you must stick to the rule book as parenting requires commitment in all its sense.
Bad signs:
- Avoiding/Ignoring/Neglecting your child – This leads to the child feeling very low of themselves and may lead to loneliness in them.
- Physical abuse.
- Mental/Verbal abuse.
- Complaining to others about your children.
- Complaining to your children about anything in the world or even about them.
- Criticizing them.
- Comparing children with other children.
- Forcing them to work according to your choices.
- Being demanding.
- Fighting with your spouse/other people in front of your children.
- Condemning them.
- Bickering/shouting/screaming in front of them.
- Mis-understanding /Mis-communicating/ Mis-interpreting/ Mis-representing their thoughts, words and deeds.
- Worrying too much about your children.
- Not keeping faith in your belief that your child can achieve whatever he/she wants to.
- Not motivating your child.
- Not talking with them or hugging them.
- Restricting their thoughts/action/feelings to a certain limit.
- Punishing them often or throwing anger on them.
- Not looking after their daily life – habits/thinking/feelings/actions/choices/decisions.
- Most importantly, demoralizing and de-motivating them.
Punishment is required when a child does something very ridiculous but it is not the option at most times. Children get worse when they are extensively punished for even small matters or matters not worth it. Punishment is just to teach them a lesson that they must behave “consciously†and “intelligently†with a conscientious will before doing anything in life. Once they have learned that lesson, you wont have even worry about them.
Please add pointers below this posts so that we can expand the list of bad parenting signs and traits that lead to devastation in the lives of our very sweet children. Happy Parenting!
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My parents did a lot of those things to me and as a result I am constantly depressed and have low self-esteem. I officially met them for the first time when I was 9 years old. Before that I was living with my mom. I now live with my dad and step mom. It felt like I was adopted because I had no emotional connection with them and felt awkward most of the time. It is still pretty much the same to this day. I am now in my 20s. They have provided for me financially but nothing more. I have kept to myself all the time and had no emotional support nor felt the love a child is supposed to get from parents. I have not seeked any professional help but I think that it had a great effect on me as a person. I am not happy at all. I feel so stressed out just being around them. This stress goes away when they go out of town or if I do. I don’t know what to do. It may be too late for me to do anything now. Talking with them won’t help I already know that much.
My parents constantly screamed at one another during my childhood and it felt like my dad was moving out everyday because they fought only to try again,I was supportive at first but when it continues for 17 years it needs to stop,they are no longer together but as a result I am constantly flustered,always going through extreme anxiety, and am extremely socially reclusive
hi,
the other day, a friend of mine that I also find attractive pointed out something in my behavior, when I told him my feelings about him. It hurt my feelings and I am questioning if in fact that would make me a bad mother to his one and a half years old child. He remarked on the fact that once when we were on a hiking trip, I wondered away from him at dusk, without informing him. He looked for me for about half an hour and was pretty upset, stating that there were wolves roaming around in these parts, etc. It is true. I did that. He also added that he had to be extremely careful in choosing a partner, for his child sake, that he had noted other ‘behaviors’ of mine, that told him I had ‘issues’, but refused to go on when I questioned him about it. The thing is, I am a pretty conscientious person, I am aware that I do have unresolved things that still need work (don’t we all?). And I am willing and do improve my doings everyday, trying to stay aware of how they are brought about, and how they can be improved. The bottom line is, this comment just trows me off, and I am left hanging, because I feel attracted to him. Regardless though, I know I would be a good mother. Imperfect, perhaps, but one thing is sure I will do my best of best to make sure my children live in a happy, and warm home, encouraged to grow independent, resilient, and proud of who they are. This is what I have learned from my mom and will improve on. this is the plan. Now I need to find a partner who truly appreciates me, imperfections and all.
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at times i fell like alot of these things happen and that the world is pused on to my sholders
my parents both show a lot of these signs. with their constant fighting and my fathers verbal abuse. im 17 and have 2 jobs as well as full time school and i work 7 days a week. i have 2 baby brothers under the age of 2 and i live with my mother. whenever dad comes to visit he yells. and now he is “threatening” to make me quit my job because he thinks i dont do anything for the family. which in not true. and it hurts.
I feel like Im a bad parent because, I am constantly stessed out. I had a tough upbringing, My mother lost her children to the state and then my aunt and uncle took us all in. as I am the last remaining, Because they all went back to my mom, I had it hard, my aunt and uncle medicated me when i was 13 so they could handle a teenager, they had me in and out of crisis units on probabtion, all from nothing I did wrong, Its effected my life horribly, and I also feel uncomfortable and awkward around them. They hurt my life so bad that it truly effects me everyday, How do I overcome the horrible past and move on with my little baby girl and my neglecting lazy boyfriend? My boyfriend is absolutely no help to me. I try to make things work but nothing seems to happen.
I dont want to see my daughter going through what I went through