Why do you think that is? What could be the possible reasons for the existence of such a workshop and nowadays, for many a parent, a need based tool?

What are the reasons behind the innate need to have a regular updating in your parenting skills?

Let’s try to answer the above with logic and sensbilites. Children are like sponges, they grasp what they hear and they grasp what they see. Years and decades ago, there was no concept of a cellular phone or a Television with Cable tv. There was less exposure and therefore, fewer chances of children breaking rules and fewer chances of children rebelling.

Today, it is a set trend, especially in metropolitans like Mumbai, for children to act out and act rebellious and in the process, have a communication gap that later goes on to be filled with the aid of much-needed tools like Parenting Workshops.

What do Parenting Workshops provide?- Well, for starters, they provide an insight into the minds of children from a parent’s point of view. These workshops are designed to allow parents to understand children. To render understanding to a child’s point of view is a kick-start to a good communication between parents and children. These workshops vary in their duration and number of days. They instill advice in parent’s minds about recognizing the needs of children in their indirect way of showing their needs, for instance, through rebellion or outrage or outbursts . By recognizing those needs, a better solution is possible. A harmony is formed. This is called decoding a child’s behavioural pattern. Learning methods to instill discipline yet not be harsh is a equitable balance and it is like walking on thin ice. A parent has to be cautious and has to keep in mind the level of flexibility to possess. These workshops give a certain new kind of confidence to the parents to deal with their child. Teenage years are often, complicated because the child and parent face new obstacles and difference of opinions on nearly every topic discussed and this becomes a challenging situation, but these workshops train parents to keep a grip on their mind and their actions and try to understand the different changes that their child is going through emotionally and psychologically and with that knowledge, parents find it simpler dealing with those bratty teenage behavioural patterns. Last of all, Harmony at home gives a child a breath of fresh air. Unity between parents and harmony at home is a contributing factor towards a positive development for a child.

Children are the future of the country – It’s a popular quote and it’s true. It’s similarly true that children belonging to this generation are far more exposed and far more aware than any other generation of the past and the future will only increase this quotient. Therefore, parents too need to keep up the pace of updating their parenting methods and keep on par with the updating of the exposure the kids receive…!!

It is real. It is not a myth. It is an absolute truth that parents today need constant updates on their parenting radars. A win-win situation is when parents are flexible and when they sharpen their parenting skills at regular intervals so that they can cope with the regularly changing kids.

There are ways and means to improve parenting skills. One advisable way is to take guidance from websites such as this (websites that are trusted in their bounty of knowledge).  Another is to attend workshops on parenting to learn the craft of dealing with children of all ages and all temperaments. An efficient way of bettering parenting skills is to talk and listen and communicate with depth to your child. This will allow you to get a glimpse of your child’s thoughts and vice-versa and in the bargain; a glowing, bouncing rapport is formed, constituting a definite edge in parenting skill.

Parenting skills can be improvised by taking advice when absolutely needed by trained professional in the field of children and their psychological frames. Bouncing advice off of other parents can be beneficial. Brain-Storming can happen, ideas and suggestions can be implemented, points of views can be exchanges regularly and joint-decisions even may follow

Getting inhibitions out a child can be a action towards better parenting because many children have their own set of inhibitions that they do not like to discuss with anyone. By taking time out together as a family, like for instance, taking a vacation, reading a book together and spending quality time are good ways to achieve the former.

Faith in any amounts is such a positive influence on children. Instill a habit in children to say a prayer every day. Saying a prayer will among all things, give a child a sense of good vibrations and good energy before going to bed.

Pointers to parents to deal with difficult children

1. Children have hearts of gold and this saying will remain a constant. So often, when children are being difficult and a parent thinks yelling or hitting a child is the answer, it is far from the truth. Children respond to warmth. If a child has broken a rule of the house for the first time, be gentle in your explanation to the child. If the same rule is broken the second time, first find out if has been intentional or not. If it’s been done unintentionally then excuse the child and explain again. If it’s broken for the third time, then be stern voiced and tell your child. If any more times, then exhibit a strong tone in voice ( lean towards the beginning of strict by putting your foot down and even firmly raising your voice a bit to prove a point to your child )
2. Children who are difficult are often coping with different thoughts or insecurities of their own and do not always express them to a parent. This is why when you your child dis-obeying you or being the opposite of behaved, then you must first try to find out what is playing on your child’s mind.
3. There is a saying Spare the rod and spoil the child. But today, every move is accounted for. Every move of a parent has to be re-thought several times. What used to never be on the radar today has made it to topping lists—-Child Psychology. Child psychologists are making their professional galore across the globe. So parents, think many times before laying a hand to hit a child because as stated before, children today have a different mind structure and a different constitution. Yes, a gentle hit where a child does not really get hurt, once in a way, when things look to get very out of hand, is a possible method of inducing good discipline, but any more than that, you might lose communication and respect of your child for that time.
4. Give curfews to your teenage kid. (when he or she goes out in the evening) Let your child understand that he or she cannot take curfews and deadlines for granted
5. Ground them only when necessary (Time-out)
6. Have a conversation and discussion with your child. Let there even be scope for positive debate and this will leave an impressionable mark on your child
7. You were a child once too———- Different as you may have been,——— You still  may have been difficult in your own way——-

 Parents too get stressed during their children’s exams. It is important to first lower our pressure so that the child is not affected. Working parents need to make their days more flexible and allow themselves to unwind early so that the child is not neglected. Many times children are well prepared and yet go blank when the paper arrives. This is a case of chronic phobia and many times it’s a kind of mental pressure that disallows clear thinking.

 It is important to get the child attuned to daily tasks like homework. Though it is good to be around the child constant nagging will not help. Children who perform due to pressure will succumb to low grades once they are on their own. Though parents play a huge role in helping the children with academics, in the later years the child has to solve his own chemistry equations. Hand holding in an emotional support is more preferred.

  The relation between unhealthy eating habits and studies is very much proven. The enzymes produced in a child who is constantly craving for junk food does not calm the mind. Hence there is confusion and the result is untimely eating or sluggish life habits. Help the child finish his cereal and make time to converse on the breakfast table. Without building pressure, concentrate on the positive points and strike a balance it expressing your expectations.

 Both parents have a different style of parenting and the positive traits in both parents help a child excel in studies. It is about building an attitude to work hard so that the results are consistent in terms of grades or knowledge. Stress is a common occurrence before any performance and it is important to not let the child lower his confidence. A bit of pranayama and relaxing well before receiving the questionnaire is beneficial.

Good ways to improve existing parent-child rapport and relationship are listed in the following.

It’s essential to know that children would be at a happier space when they know that their every move is noticed by their parents and that they would receive accolades and appreciation even if they do not win a competition but just participate healthily. These kids get encouraged to follow their hearts and dreams and change their dreams and ambitions in course of growing up as well. Treat your child to an ice cream when you know that he or she has got good marks from school or give your child a hug if he or she gifts you a hand-made craft item. Take your kids for outings and take them to eat lunch with you to a restaurant so that they feel adult and responsible as well. Take time to play board games like carom board with your child, this will increase healthy competitive spirit and will have an enthusiastic impact on the child

Play outdoor games with children. Children love nature and they love adventure and so, it is no surprise that they love the outdoors! Take them on picnics, take their friends too for a picnic visit once in a way so that you can be a part of all the excitement6 and fun that the kids have whilst in a picnic area. Take food and snacks and chocolate treats for your child and the friends because these will be a real hit! And in the process, you become a hit with your children’s friends and your child

Be patient. Patience is a key to solving many problems. Be calm in your approach. If your child is hyper-active, it does not mean that you must response with hyper-activity as well. Calm and still will help sooth the situation many a time when there is high-strung energy around. Patience is a virtue and every parent must practice it for their child’s sake and their own sake. These are more than good ways to improve existing relationships between parents and children of all age groups

Older methods                                                                                                     Newer Methods

If a child throws things often

Parents scold or yell with or without explanation                         Parents think twice before raising their                                                                                                    voice even slightly and try to first                                                                                                           decipher if there is something the child                                                                                                   is troubled about

If a child pushes boundaries over and over again

Parents may give a hit or resort to excessive shouting                Parents would consult a their peers or                   have large discussions and then decide to ground their child or the necessary action to be taken over a course of time

These are just a few citings to portray how older and newer methods of parenting are different

Methods that are more effective with longer lasting impact are newer age methods because they are done methodically and with proper research and this gives definition to actions and reactions, both. Children pose many problems for adults but in their minds, they believe that even adults may be troublesome to them in ways and to create a strike or balance between the two parties, it is important to study the psychology of both the parent and the child.

Parenting was designed to be a joyous chapter and for parents to grow with their child because there are so many instances where that child can teach important lessons to parents which are precious and valuable. But looking around, quite a few things you hear about parenting is about how difficult it is and how hard the kids make it for parents to have a sane, good approach in their disciplining and the various items that form the challenging-parental-kit

Centuries ago when women had children, they possible endured a lot of physical pain to undergo child birth and they did and you never heard complaints that came post..Today, when physical pain for child-birth has been eliminated by medical miracles, you find new-gen drama that is rampant because of the every-increasing and destructive behaviourial prints that new-gen children exhibit and how!

But sooner than later, the trend of having joyousness attached on every level of parenting and the valuing of a child to the ultimate (to be ga-ga and goo-goo ing of a child) is a definite. Why, you wonder? Because children are meant to be carriers of joy and the spokespersons for peace and love. Eventually, however hard the challenges of bringing a child up, the advice and brining up methods would be stream-lined and mastered like the arts and with the challenges that are unique or ever-changing, a positive approach would be had and children would become role-models to their parents. They would be enjoyed and their innocence and bounty of imaginative thoughts would be held in high regard by parents who would have a joyous approach towards parenting

Why not start that trend now? Why not understand that children will be children, with them being good, comes them being difficult; with them being understanding, comes them being defensive and resistant, with them being angels, comes them bouncing off your very walls, but to tap what these children can be capable of, is a beauty that is non-comparable and un-explainable. It’s certainly a wise saying that is true that Children are the country’s future and therefore bringing up a child with joy, will allow your child to put his happy foot forward and in the world, there is no better way to starting a future, than with happiness or appreciation or positivity. Joyous trends in parenting have been the case with many parents, sure, but what we hear about mostly are the list of complaints. Let’s transform that to the list of joy related things that your child brings into your life. From Innocence, to daring to dream, to hopes and miracles, re-experience your childhood by bringing up children with a miraculous approach, that of a joyous one towards children in parenting

Parenting is a task- Make that task happy and joyful and the task will transform and look like a beautiful journey. In this journey, learning is possible for everyone involved and with lessons learnt, children and adults grow. A must-have necessity is to have a Joyous approach towards parenting

Ten useful tips for Successful Parenting

1. Enjoy your child instead of always worrying about his or her habits, behavior, school, homework,, tuition and so on
2. Realize that your child has his or her mind and individuality and therefore taking his or her opinion and point of view into consideration is an absolute must
3. Give your child the benefit of the doubt before blaming a child for anything. This is imperitive and essential for every parent to bear in mind.
4. Be a fair person in your disciplinary methods. Be nice until you really need to be a bit more firm, but after that, let time allow your advice to sink in to the child’s mind by offering the same advice in different situations again so that your child has a good learning
5. Don’t be hasty in listening to your child. Allot time. Spend time listening. Lend your child a listening ear and you never know what all you could discover about your child
6. Take time to play. Both you and your child should. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy or Jill a dull girl. Same applies to adults.
7. Watch fun filled cartoons or animated films together. Watch meaningful child cinema as a family, your child will value that gesture a lot
8. Take a trip down memory lane and be a child sometimes too. There is no child that does not enjoy seeing an adult relive their childhood and let loose
9. Show affection by speaking kind words about your child to your friends when your child is around, this will greatly encourage your child to be better and well behaved as he or she feels more responsible

10.  As a parent, instill positive, vibrant values in your children. This will help them in future, even if they experience peer-pressure or get into un-desirous habits

These tips act as a map in the road to good parenting. It is a tiresome process and a difficult job to raise kids. Raising kids with good values is even tougher. Raising kids to be respectful to elders used to be done with seeming ease and today, getting kids to even say hello to elders is an exercise for a parent. Herewith, lies the perils of exposure that today’s’ kids have, as opposed to the exposure had by kids born even as recent as the late 90’s…. These tips act as mechanisms to kick-start the brand-new parent-child approach.

Permissive parenting is parenting with very ambiguous and fuzzy boundaries at most times. The concept being,  Parenting which is permissive by nature. Allowing or giving permission to your child for a lot of things and therefore rendering a certain flexibility to bend the rules, as long as they are not serious, hard rules that have consequences when broken.

To discipline is good, to be harsh is not good unless it’s rare, to be too soft or a ‘push-over’ as they would term it in cool-lingo, is not good either. So the answer lies in the balance. Just as Lord Buddha believed that one must take the middle path, similarly, as a parent, taking the middle path in discipline is the most sensible and is the brightest form of disciplining your child as well.

An example: Allowing a child who is a teenager between ages 13-16 to go out at night, until midnight or one am, for a special occasion, as long as you are aware of his/her whereabouts and necessary details, is part of a flexible parenting method. This is sometimes, essential to encourage your child. Allowing that same child to go out every weekend, as a teenager, until midnight or more, is part of a too-flexible parenting method. This would be uncalled for, as your child could get encouraged into habits that are as unhealthy and unrequired as this method of parenting itself

Where you can discipline your child with warmth, do so! Your child may completely understand when he/she knows that you are talking to him/her as an adult and will respect your sentiment. If each time that you explain to your child, you do so by raising your voice, then the effect of it fades away. It is like crying wolf. After that, when you actually do have a reason to yell and you do so, your child may act against your rules. And this, is not in any way a good parenting way. Good parenting is an art form. Like art concepts keep evolving, so do permissive parenting rules and tips. What is acceptable today may simply not have been close to acceptable in the 90’s. We live in the broad spectrum-era and we have to think like the they  do. Permissive parenting is all about encouraging your child in right amounts and discouraging habits that are intrusive and disciplinary actions which are situation based. Whoever thought allowing your teenager to have a mobile was alright to do? But today, it is not frowned upon. An advice to give all parents regarding their children is to remember the quote by James Arthur Baldwin : “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”

Give children inspiration and impart warm, good advice and discipline to them. Also, most importantly, make sure you set a good example for them by being the best that you can be and by often, practicing what you preach because their imitation of  you is a good glance at the person they hope to become.

Tansen Sangeet Mahavidyalaya (TSM) was founded by Late Shri R. S. Verma (Sangeet Acharya) (1890-1991).

TSM organized various stage programmes, at the State and National levels by the name of “Sangeet Pratiyogita”.

This series of stage performances started way back in 1975. Subsequently it was held in 1979, 1984, 1989 and 1995. Then it was renamed and in 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001 and 2002 it was held as “Sangeet Pratibha Samaroh”. In 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006 & 2007 it had another renaming as simply “Sangeet Samaroh” .Associating with today’s world; it is running by the name of “TAANZ PERFORMERS”.
The objective of these programmes is to

• Encourage the students and build in a spirit of participation
• Remove the inhibitions of getting on stage.
• Therefore, this becomes a part of the complete training process. How to perform on stage, the stage etiquettes – the do’s and don’ts on stage are all a part of this training.
• Repeated stage appearances grooms a person enough to allow him to perform anywhere without having any fear whatsoever.
• The programmes are covered by the local media – both print and visual.
• This helps in, not only promoting the organisation, but also propagating the good work and the students’ talents.

Website: http://www.tansensangeet.com/

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