1. DEMOCRATIC PARENTING: This is possibly the most effective styles of parenting because it allows children to use their initiative in arriving at a decision and be readily accepting the outcome of their actions and inactions. Better still, democratic parents train their children to identify the difference between the moral and immoral, good and evil but give them freedom to select their course of action at same time make themselves accountable. These types of parents most times set the minimum standard for their children and reasonably tailor them towards the direction. They do this through love and care without stepping into their privacy. Parents utilize the children’s mistakes to lecture them positively rather than opportunity to punish. In addition their good manners attract motivation and reward accordingly.

2. AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING STYLE: Here, parents many at times exerts their authority on their children. Parents in this category unilaterally make stringent “dos” and “don’ts” on their children so that they can monitor them closely. Again they are of the opinion that children must not express negative psychology in any form because it signifies timidity. The parents here are too hard to please by their children which are the reason behind the weak child-parent relationship. Despite, the parents could not really convince their children the purpose of the die-hard rules being imposed indiscriminately. On the part of the children, they often lack the courage to use their initiative independently. In addition, they end up with sense of loneliness, emotional imbalance, lack of good peer relation and finally, it erodes child’s creativity and innovative.

3. PERMISSIVE PARENTS: This is otherwise called Laissez-faire parental attitudes. The parents in this group leave their children with excessive freedom but remain very contented with little or no influence over their children. Occasionally, when the parents give guidelines, children hardly carry it out because parents lack the zeal to follow it up. These parents don’t see any wrong doings in their children.

4. DISMISSIVE OR NEGLECTED PARENTS: This is a destructive parenting style. The parents for reasons best known to them simply give children all they need without caring for how the children fares afterwards. Eventually, the children develop the habit of hostility, waywardness and emotional trauma.

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Older methods                                                                                                     Newer Methods

If a child throws things often

Parents scold or yell with or without explanation                         Parents think twice before raising their                                                                                                    voice even slightly and try to first                                                                                                           decipher if there is something the child                                                                                                   is troubled about

If a child pushes boundaries over and over again

Parents may give a hit or resort to excessive shouting                Parents would consult a their peers or                   have large discussions and then decide to ground their child or the necessary action to be taken over a course of time

These are just a few citings to portray how older and newer methods of parenting are different

Methods that are more effective with longer lasting impact are newer age methods because they are done methodically and with proper research and this gives definition to actions and reactions, both. Children pose many problems for adults but in their minds, they believe that even adults may be troublesome to them in ways and to create a strike or balance between the two parties, it is important to study the psychology of both the parent and the child.

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Different parents have different approaches towards punishment. A child is bound to make mistakes. You can not help it. But how should parents treat mistakes of children? Physical violence or oral bombardment or plain ignorance? How should they deal with this problem? First of all, parents need to focus on severity and nature of problem. Children make mistakes, sometimes innocuously and some other times to get attention. They know if they make mistakes their parents will definitely turn to them. Have you realized whether you are giving ample time to your kids? If they are going through attention deficit syndrome? Or parents are giving in to every demand of children and they can no longer take any refusal for any demand? Every situation has different complexion level. But parents should treat each case in isolation.

One treatment does not suit to all the situations. Focus on solutions and not on punishment. Parents must decide carefully about both short-term and long term consequences. Discipline gets a boost from solution based parenting instead of punishment based one. Don’t just look at effect but also focus on what cause that effect. In other words what caused certain behavioral pattern of the kids? This will help you in dealing effectively with the kids. Once you start implementing this solution based parenting, you will find its benefits in the long run.

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Attachment Parenting is based on certain principles. These rules define the strentgth of secure bonding. Eight principles are,

Practice Positive Discipline

Preparation for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting

Feed with Love and Respect

Use Nurturing Touch

Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally

Provide Consistent Loving Care

Respond with Sensitivity

Now, these principles are subject to one’s interpretation. Parents should be very creative in understanding the needs of the child. Friendly care is of utmost importance in the development of a child. Respect and freedom are essential for good development of the child. It will help in maintaining a functional balance.

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Let’s go through some easy exercises that would benefit your child through the walk of life.

1. Encourage Reading. You should motivate your children to read. For younger kids, you should set up a schedule of reading with them.

2. Allocate Assignments. Ask them to finish an assignment depending on their age. For the smaller children it can be picking up their toys or for the elder ones, helping you with a more complex task around the house. Assign a time limit for them to finish the task within and as they’ve effectively accomplished the task, appreciate and praise them to boost their confidence.

3. Create Lists. For long or comprehensive assignments or if your child needs to complete a number of tasks, crafting lists can help them concentrate on their tasks. A huge task is made less frightening if you split it up into steps.

4. Make them have a picture of success. Keep asking them frequently what do they want to achieve in life. Make them sketch images of the success they want and place it wherever noticeable. This way, they will be focused about their aim and will have an ambitious outlook towards life.

You can keep changing these exercises according to the age group of your child or their maturity level. This will help them throughout their life and will build their concentration level. They will be comparatively more focused and will be able to concentrate better.

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The most important thing that parents can do is be an example for your children. Whenever you are in your conflict or argument handle it calmly, the way you would want your child to handle it. Believe it or not, your child subconsciously tries to imitate you in every way. Next thing to keep in mind is that when your children are fighting, don’t yell at them because you are trying to teach them keep calm and you can’t do that by screaming.
Explain to them that fighting is not a solution and it’s the wrong way out. Ask them to relax whenever they are enraged or angry. Teach them skills to calm down and maintain their cool like taking a deep breath or counting backwards.
Teach them how to share their belongings, like sharing their toys with their friends or younger siblings to avoid disputes. Never, even unintentionally, take sides. Partiality can be very harmful. Every time your child resolves a dispute calmly, appreciate him by maybe giving him something he likes, maybe a chocolate. This would encourage him to keep his cool and gradually it will become a part of his attitude.
Provide normal, rational consequences when your child starts a fight. Make him realize that fighting will worsen the situation. For example, if your children are fighting over the television remote, switch off the television so that both of them can’t watch it.
These small things will affect your child’s personality to a great extent when he grows up and faces the world.

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A new born baby cannot do anything by himself. But he is definitely learning all the time. For example he is learning to control his neck muscles, his head muscles and his ends. Till he turns three months old there are a couple of exercises you can help him do.
First of all, try the knee bend exercise. Take your infant’s feet and tenderly push his knees to his stomach. Then unbend his knees and push them back to his stomach again. Continue doing this. After repeating this a few times, you may observe that your baby begins to push back at you. This is all right; however don’t force his legs to bend.

The next exercise would help your baby lift his head. Lay your child straight, adjacent to your shoulder. In this pose, your baby can try raising his head, even if only for a second or two. You should give him good support along his back so he cant fall doesn’t fall down backwards.

The next exercise can help babies of all ages. Place your child, facing downwards on a comparatively firm surface. You can use foam floor mats for this exercise. Maybe during the first few months your baby won’t do react to this position, but as he grows a little older, he will try to turn his head from one side to other. He will also try lifting it up. In due course, he will push himself up on his forearms to look around.

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It is very important for parents to help their children develop individually and become independent from each other, especially if they are twins. Living in the same atmosphere and dressing identically makes twins dependent on each other. It is important for them to become separate people with individual identities. There are a couple of things parents can do to ensure that their children develop a personality different from their sibling.

First of all, every parent should make sure that their twin children are not named identically. They should have distinctive names. However, if the children are already named similarly, they should be given completely different pet names to lessen the confusion.

Most parents usually dress their infant twins alike. However, this shouldn’t be continued after the infant period. Parents should make sure that their children dress distinctly because wearing identical clothes makes it more difficult for people to recognize them individually. Even if their wardrobe consists of similar clothes, they shouldn’t wear them together. Also they should be given separate cupboards. This would make them recognize them self as different from their twin.

Twin children should be given separate toys so that they identify themselves as different individual from their sibling. They understand the meaning of ownership before learning how to share their belongings. Parents should avoid referring to them as twins and instead use their respective names. This helps them learn who they are.

It is not necessary to implement these suggestions all at the same time. You can take them up step by step. These small things hold a lot of importance in developing your child’s individual character.

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