Though we want our children to win and perform, at times we forget to celebrate the small achievements. That day, by daughter unbuttoned her shirt and folded it on the corner side of the bed. Though I noticed it and it was the first time she did it, the mobile rang and I failed to acknowledge the same. After my conversation ended, she kept looking up at me in silent expectation of an appreciation. As Providence beamed its luck, I remembered and hugged her about it.

 Many times we get macro in our style of parenting and lose the laughter someway. It is true and very well done if we can make our children habitual and also disciplined. Petty tasks can be handled by them but it is disheartening to hear the recent spate of events of suicide among children. What went wrong is a thing of past and yet what we can do is another responsibility placed on us as parents.

 Paucity of time is a big factor about parenting. May be getting into a pattern should also be broken. Making studies fun and doing alongside an activity surely helps. There are no rules on how to get the homework done by your child but constantly insisting on A levels must not be the rule. Let us hear the silence of our children which is present as they struggle to balance the jelly on the spoon or get the cursive handwriting right.

 Let us give them a chance or ourselves the chance to be patient and enduring. Most extra curricular events are well tailored in school and other activity classes. Let children also ‘be’ during their weekends or vacations. Let them enjoy catching the sun rays as given a chance we could do the same.

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Parenting has several styles like democratic or authoritative or disciplinary etc. but whatever style parents choose to handle their kids, one thing will always be there at the core of parenting; the word ‘effective’. No matter, what style you choose, it has to be effective and honest. Parenting requires utmost honesty and sincerity. This is one job that can never be done with half-hearted effort. Children acquire utmost importance in the life of a parent.

Parents need to be very positive while dealing with kids. They should always approach of encouragement. They are the ones who influence and motivate kid the most and they must take words and action seriously. Wrong words/deeds shown by them can affect child in negative way. Remember, you kid is always watching and learning from you. If you are positive, your child will get self-esteem and belief

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Encourage your child to play with numbers on bus and train tickets. Join him in the process. Use various combinations and add, subtract, multiply and divide all the numbers. Tables are also very important. Try and let your child take by heart tables up to 20. Initially it may seem like an impossible task by revising tables everyday will help your child to remember them easily.

A little inspiration and practice and your involvement with your kids in dealing with numbers and mental calculations will go a long way in sharpening your child’s mathematical ability.

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Stress needs to be channelsied in an effective manner and the emphasis should also be on ‘me time’. Parenting means organizing life in the sense sharing chores and also making time to understand the growing needs of your child. For all parents, the camera is the biggest discovery and this helps us to reminisce the time spent with the infant, toddler and teenager who is your child. Capture all special, casual and very important moments of your child.

Make time during special days like a birthday, occasion or a casual garden party. Children copy their role models and the love their parents. Care givers too influence them in many ways. Teach them to bond and respect teachers, grand parents and their friends. For a teenager the world is complete with their circle of friends. We can stand with them as a guide when they find the path cumbersome.

Exposing children to hobbies is an excellent way to understand their hidden potential and also burn their excess energy. Many parents complain that their child is fidgety or going towards being aggressive. But the truth is that they need to expend their energy in form of casual play or an organized sports activity.

The role of a parent is a collective responsibility and we must all remember that parenting too requires learning new skills. Do share with us your tips on parenting and the tips your have applied in effectively communicating with your child.

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The charity begins at home. Start with giving your own example. For the uninitiated, encourage your child to read the newspaper on a daily basis. Soon, it will become his habit. This habit can’t be developed overnight. One good idea is to discuss headlines with your child so that he develops a keen interest in what is going around the world. Try not to dwell on just news. Your discussion could involve subjects like movies, music or sports.

The advantage of discussion is your child will be more interested in current affairs as you as parent will be leading by example. Child often follows his parents so if you yourself is into news and current affairs, naturally child will find it easier, comfortable and motivating enough to generate interest. It is a common sight now a day to find kids having poor general knowledge. They totally seem clueless of what is going around the world. This is definitely not an encouraging sign and at some point of his life child will find himself alienated. Command over general knowledge will make your child more confident and a better conversationalist.

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We will not go into the detail of which approach is the right one. However, we can always discuss what the advantages of the contrasting approach are. One of the neuroscience consultants believes in the first approach and the reason being cited is presence of 12 billion neurons in the child. If these are not used till the age of 12, approximately half of them die and that must be termed as sheer waste. So he advocates parents must take steps that make kid use these neurons. That will also ensure that child is using his optimum brain capacity.

The fact that the pressure on kids has increased tremendously in recent years because of ubiquitous competition, parents have to be involved with child to make sure child is not lagging behind. Now just being a book worm does not suffices. A child has to participate in several extra-curricular activities to develop an all-round personality. Children might scoff at so much of workload but in the end it pays off. In such scenario, it becomes quite obvious for parents to place emphasis on all the aspects of kid’s personality and make sure he is using his optimum capacity.

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Our Rajya Basha diwas is celebrated on September 14th as a mark of acknowledgement of the Indian official language. Hindi adopts the true spirit of Indians in terms of tolerance. Though the original Sanskrit language is known to be borrowed for Hindi, the influences of Persians and Urdu language can be very well seen here.

Hindi diwas is celebrated in many schools and colleges where it is fun to enjoy poems and exchanges in dramatic sequence highlighting the multifarious activities that can be conducted through Hindi. This is also the mother tongue for many North Indians. Despite the insistence of educational institutions to converse in English which is an international language, Hindi always continues to be the mainstay in the syllabus.

Anecdotes, jokes and drama in Hindi related to our literature are entertaining for all age groups. The Devnagri script of Hindi bridges the cultural gap that often results with people speaking diverse languages and dialects. The influence of regional language like Marathi on Hindi has led to spoken Mumbai slang which is a natural occurrence.

The essence of Hindi is felt in mythological characters, school syllabus and our daily exchange as a means of communication. The visit to theatres is characterized by respecting our National Anthem in Hindi which expresses wonderful emotions felt by all Hindustanis.
…………………………………………………………Vatan hain, Hindostan hamara.

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The word ‘teens’ have got some overdue importance. Just because, a child is a teen, parents let go many things and think that it is a part of the growing up. And one such common behavior that many parents let go is rudeness. Parents often ignore this because they think that this is the age when their children will become rebels and that over the time, they will be fine. This however may not be true. This rudeness and the like behavior can stay with kids even when they grow up.

You need to check this kind of behavior firmly at first. A lot of teens are seen throwing a lot of attitude and being rude because they want to use their new found freedom. If your child is rude, please do not take this as a part of the behavior and may it very clear and this is simply not acceptable. However it is also important, that parents too should avoid being rude to your child.

Peer pressure is usually a strong influence on a teenager. At no stage in life is a person as vulnerable to peer pressure, as when he or she is in his or her teens. Teens seek support from friends and that becomes a prime importance and suddenly they find a new world which is different from family. This provokes them to imitate their other members and get influenced to be rude and act rough.

If you think you will be able to explain to you child that he should be kind by spanking him in front of the guests, he is never going to learn. To curb the rudeness quotient in him, you need to act kind.

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One sure option is flexi hours but parenting still stays a full time job. Weekends are the best time to bond and just be yourself. The minute chores of doing the laundry, attending to the demands of the older child and other social engagements may sap your energy but mild adjustments are necessary to enjoy life to the fullest. It takes almost a month to adjust to the new routine and if conditioned children adjust easily.

Having a dependable care giver solves most of the problem. Find someone to supervise the new care giver so that the child’s care is not compromised. Take help from your spouse or rather split up jobs so that there is less stress on yourself. A mother’s job is never done in a day. Nursing too is a devoted effort but thankfully breast pumps make the job easy. Try brunches on weekends and use simple meals to save time.

New moms must always upkeep their self esteem and physical appearance. Joining a gym will require time management but just go for a walk in the mornings. Schedule half an hour to yoga and learn the right way to mediate. Positive affirmations are a healing experience. Physical energy needs to be built but at the same time it is important to stay cool. Extra chores, children’s illnesses and personal agendas need multi tasking. But the truth is all moms do it excellently.

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The sight of a child sitting on a computer or playing with a mobile phone is commonplace. Even at the age of three and four they know how to slip a CD inside the CD-ROM in a computer! So parents who are not computer literate, should make sure they themselves learn the basics of this technology so that they can then monitor on what their kids are learning.

Some parents have a certain kind of a bias against computers. Exposing your child to computer at an early age is not considered harmful. Computer for children should be an educational tool which can aid and facilitate their learning. There are many software based educational games that you should encourage your child to play with and learn at the same time.

While buying educational software make sure that you check the age-appropriateness of the software. All children’s programs and games software are clearly labeled with regard to the age group they are suitable for. Many parents especially in India have this mentality that if their kid is smart they should upgrade them to a higher level but avoid that because the software may introduce him to concepts that he is not yet ready to learn about.

Take advice from people who have more knowledge about educational computer software from children. Joining computer classes is a great thing to do as this gives a formal training to your kids.

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